Appreciation Brings the Most Fulfilling Relationship

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could do one thing and have the most fulfilling relationship we’ve ever had?

Relationships mean a lot to us because of the way we feel when they go well. I’ve read many relationship books to help my own relationships. But when I really needed what these books said, I couldn’t remember what they said. It turned out that my own experiences helped me more than any book. What I learned was that feeling appreciation often for my partner was the one thing that changed my relationship more than anything else. And because of my experiences with appreciation, it was easy to remember this one simple process.

Early in a relationship, our feelings dominate more than our thinking because we don’t know the other person very well. As we get to know someone better, we tend to think more than feel, which is often why relationships don’t feel as good over time as when we first fell in love. So how do we get that amazing feeling back? We feel appreciation more often; we spend more time focusing on the things we appreciate about someone. Once we feel more love from spending more time appreciating, we will rarely spend any time focusing on what we don’t want or don’t like about our partner. And this will create the most fulfilling relationship, more fulfilling than one can imagine.

Why does it matter what we focus on? What we put our attention on grows. By putting our attention on things that we appreciate about someone, we grow that feeling. As this feeling grows inside us, we experience a relationship that grows beyond any feeling we’ve ever experienced before. And more things that we appreciate in life keep showing up because this feeling attracts more things to appreciate.

We often believe that we need to let our partner know what we don’t want or don’t like so they will change for things to work out. But it rarely works because focusing on things we don’t like only makes them grow. We’ve all experienced how when someone appreciates us, we want to do more things that bring their appreciation. The same thing is true when someone complains about us. We unconsciously do other things our partner doesn’t like because that is what our attention is on. It’s hard to do what our partner wants when our partner talks about what they don’t want or don’t like.

The key isn’t to get your partner to appreciate you; the key is to appreciate your partner regardless of what your partner is doing to you. If you focus on what your partner is doing, you aren’t focused on what you are doing or how you are feeling. This puts your power into your partner’s hands. You want the power to create what you want to be in your hands.

Feeling appreciation, feeling love has the significant benefit of making things in our relationship go perfectly. This is something that is hard to believe until we experience it. When we experience it, we learn that it’s easier to use appreciation to make our relationship fulfilling and perfect than it is to change someone.

One way to show how our perception of our partner is different when we are madly in love is to review how people early in a relationship see their partner.

Below is a list of how love changes our perception of someone and of life:

• You see someone as perfect when others don’t.
• Everything about them is the most endearing thing to you.
• You don’t mind things they do that you would mind if you weren’t madly in love or connected with them.
• They can do nothing wrong.
• You feel unusually optimistic.
• You feel euphoric around them.
• You idealize them.
• Being in love changes how you see other things in your life.
• You feel such a bond with this person that you can’t imagine living without them.

The feelings and perceptions above are only a taste of how feeling appreciation often for your partner can change your relationship. But it starts with how you feel – not with how your partner feels. Unconditional appreciating is the key – not what your partner does in order for you to feel appreciation. When you feel appreciation often, you will see your partner and life differently, just like you did when you first fell in love.

The more you appreciate, the more you’ll understand that you’re responsible for how you feel. Taking responsibility for how you feel and for what happens to you is the second key to a very fulfilling relationship. It naturally comes forth when you’ve experienced the power of unconditional appreciation.

Hear the immense benefits of appreciating in this amazing Abraham audio clip below: