Taking Responsibility Brings Joy and What You Want

Once I experienced the power of appreciation (spoken and unspoken), I learned that I was always responsible for how I felt. In other words, I had a choice of whether I focused on things I appreciated or on things I didn’t like. When I felt appreciation, I felt good. When I focused on something I didn’t like, I felt bad. So I chose how I felt by what I focused on.

I also chose how I felt by how I perceived what someone did. Did I see what they did as good, bad, or neutral? I learned that I had a choice when I saw how another person chose to see something I did as bad when I didn’t. Once I realized that we both had a choice in how we viewed things, I didn’t get mad at that person for being mad at me. I reminded myself that they saw what I did as bad when they could have seen it as good or neutral like I did. Whenever I saw something as good, I would receive an insight that showed me the good reason for what happened. But if I saw it as bad, then I wouldn’t receive an insight or understanding that felt good. I would receive more reasons why it was bad.

The reason are feelings are important is that they determine if we receive what we want. We’ve all experienced that complaining about something rarely helps us get what we want. But, if we appreciate the other person or the other person can feel our good feelings for them, then they are more likely to work with us in getting what we both want in any situation. It all starts with our attitude, with how we feel.  

Feeling bad or feeling good wouldn’t matter unless there was power in feeling good. The power in feeling good comes from the fact that creative energy feels amazing. So, if we want the energy that creates to flow into our bodies and minds, we have to feel good. The better we feel, the more energy we have to create what we want.

In my article on feeling appreciation, you saw how feelings of love color everything about your partner and your life. You can then imagine how feeling bad colors everything with the bad feeling you feel. You end up seeing many things as bad, which perpetuates your bad feelings. So how you feel has power in creating the life you want or don’t want depending on how you feel.

The first time I took responsibility during an argument, I was surprised by all the joy I felt. I had no idea that taking responsibility would feel so good. It was the opposite of what I was expecting. Once I felt better, working things out with someone was easy as opposed to blaming each other.

I learned that when I take responsibility, I don’t argue with someone. But, if I blame someone, then it’s likely the other person will blame me. And then it becomes difficult to agree on something we both feel good about. So, all it takes is for me to take responsibility for how I feel. Once I do this, I explain how my feelings were the reason I reacted the way I did. By taking responsibility for how I felt and for what I did, I’m not blaming my partner. This openness connects me with my partner and with what I want, which adds to the joy I’m already feeling